If you need the validation and justification that it is ok if you are struggling with pet grief, this is the post for you. Let me tell you, pet grief is real and it's HARD. It's hard to explain to those outside of the "circle" the severity of your feelings without feeling undermined. Pet Grief is real and you shouldn't undermine it. Remember that everyone grieves in different ways, and for different lengths of times – between weeks, to months and in some cases, years. They say that grief is the place for lost love and that it's a honour to be able to love something so deeply. First things first, we are sorry to hear that you are going through grief from a loss of a pet, whether it's a bereavement or you decided to re-home them. Either way, it was right for you in that moment and that's all that matters (especially if you are dealing with guilt). If you ever feel that your feelings are being undermined, remember that your emotions and feelings are valid and you own it. You may see your friends and family in a different light, good and bad, and that's an interesting journey on it's own. Give the process time.
Second thing, if you are going through pet grief and need to show someone how to help support you, or you are currently seeking how to support someone who's experiencing it. Here's a rough guide:
Give them the space to talk about whatever they want too, e.g their experience, their memories or what to do next. Let them guide the chat and you follow.
Try and see things from their perspective not your own if you feel like you are becoming a bit distant from the experience e.g. your thoughts are going to "it's just a pet".
Do not suggest getting another pet. They will mention this if they feel ready to.
Encourage them to speak out where they are struggling and regularly check in with them.
If they are really struggling, look at Pet Loss support services. These are typically provided by rescue centres.
Remember that everyone grieves in different ways, and for different lengths of times – between weeks, to months and in some cases, years. Lastly, we found this post by Robert Cabral called Grieving the loss of a Pet a perfect summary of how it feels. You can also speak to your vets to see if they can support you in the journey, they may have contacts of suport groups.
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